A New Normal

I wanted to apologize for taking so long to create my next blog. Like you, my world has changed drastically, and I have had to take some time to wrap my head around our “New Normal”. This last month I have been dealing with the fact my preschool had to close, and all my tasks that involve shutting down the preschool program for this school year. I am so sad that I will not get to see most of my preschoolers until next school year, and some I will not get to see at all since they are rising kindergarteners. There is also the fact that both of my girls are at home full-time because public schools had to close. No dances, no spring sports, no dance recitals or competitions, no exams, no prom, no graduations…it is a lot. I am hurting for all our students because they have been robbed of the important things that are considered rites of passage of being a kid.

As an adult we have to worry about our job hours being reduced, or not having a job at all, but continuing to pay for our expenses and trying to find toilet paper! The reality of not being able to go anywhere freely, or see the people you love has been terrifying, stressful, and exhausting all at the same time. Well folks, I finally broke on Monday…I cried for about 30 minutes. I needed to mourn for all the losses in my life, in everyone’s lives.

But that break down brought me some clarity. We, as a society, have lost so much…people we love, security, jobs, and the way life used to be. But then I started seeing things from a different light. Instead of focusing on all the losses, I started to look at all of my gains. The world with all of these changes has given me time…time to slow down, time to be with my family, time to do the things I love but haven’t been able to do because I never stood still long enough.  I know that doesn’t seem like much, but I am loving the fact that I am getting to spend time with my husband instead of being two ships passing in the night because we are tag-teaming to get kids where they need to go. I am able to spend quality time with my girls and I learn new things about them that I never knew before. It is a gift, a gift that I am cherishing right now. It has been a long time since we all sat at our kitchen table (with no electronics), ate a meal I made, and talk as a family without having to rush to dance, a meeting or to practice. It is so nice to be able to go outside and play frisbee with my family and laugh about the fact that mom got the frisbee stuck in the tree….twice! I love that I have been able to sit, put a puzzle together or to play “Trivial Pursuit” and finally beat my husband! Time…it is a gift, and I plan to cherish it for as long as we have it.

I still will be dealing with my work, as my husband will be too and all the challenges that COVID -19 has brought, but we are doing it together. ALL OF US. So my advice to you in these crazy times is to step back, close your eyes, take a deep breath and take another look at your life. See all the good things that are in front of you and take a step back from all the negative things. YOU’VE GOT THIS!